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Why “You Can Be Successful” Does Not Mean You Will Be Successful and How to Improve the Odds

  Docusign on Unsplash When I was offered a leadership role to run the Building and Employee Services Department, I rejected it without thinking. The employee services part was a cinch. I was involved in that function for more than twenty years. Imagining the demands of building maintenance overwhelmed me. “At least you must have a working knowledge of civil engineering,” I justified for my foolhardy decision. In my course of work, the only contacts I had with the building services team were to clean up before and after my events. And only if they were held on site. I was doing the annual events; leading ad hoc committees delivering the mega event for twenty years. It was a full package deal, from working with manufacturing for the approved date, to site selection, catering, engaging celebrities, publicity and the executive speech. The last task was the most challenging. I had to do the most rework. It was also the most gratifying for two reasons. First, I got to play a role in

How to Fight Mike, Free the Elephant and Win the Well-Being Game.

  Karsten Winegaert on Unsplash   My takeaway from Jack Canfield’s book, “How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.” Principle 10: Release the Breaks Mike Tyson. After him, I lost interest in boxing. A pugilist who was as infamous for his bite as he was famous for his fight, Mike Tyson was the meanest dude. The baddest man on the planet. The other infamous dental mental was Luis Suarez, who was a phenomenal knock out specialist with the Liverpool Football Club. Since moving to Spain, perhaps there are better meal deals there, he has stopped sinking his teeth into raw human flesh. His right foot is causing most of the pain. To opposing teams. Mike Tyson. When he was too good to ignore, they say the power of his punch was equivalent to half a metric ton. Taking a punch from Tyson was like having a Grand Piano land on your face. More than the power, he was feared for his speed and positioning. But, if the continuum from research to successful application is a clean s

Contented: Why It’s Hard to Feel for Yourself, Why You Must and How To Do It.

  Noah Silliman on Unsplash You heard it wrong. Mom did not say,” Don’t feel for  yourself so much.” She probably said “Don’t feel yourself so much.” Feel…for…yourself. Self-compassion. Feel… for …yourself. Something else. One word difference. The result can be life-changing. Feel for yourself on Zoom, you’ll get fired up with energy, helping you slip out of your predicament. Compassionate vibe draws the cheerleader out of your tribe. Feel yourself on Zoom and you get fired. Happened to a scholarly looking political pundit. I have forgotten his name. Feel yourself in a room with a young girl, the video gets viralized, you get fried. By every talk show host alive. Happened to rowdy goofy lawyer. We know compassion. We are human. We are filled with feelings. There are even melancholic songs crying out loud about our feeling for feelings. Having feelings is a distinctive nature that sets us apart from a table. We share compassion for the front liners, our health heroes who